Gratefulness: A Mighty Weapon!

A friend’s Thanksgiving email reminded me of how important it is to be thankful. We tend to think of being grateful as just one of those little Bible “niceties” that all good Christians should uphold. It turns out that it’s an awesome weapon at our disposal to defeat the enemy when he comes at us with bitterness, discontentment and self pity. The Bible tells us to be thankful in everything. In Corrie ten Boom’s book The Hiding Place she tells about the unbearable circumstances in Nazi camps and how she learned there to be thankful in all circumstances and for everything (including the lice!) It’s and amazing book that I totally recommend. It turns out that true thankfulness doesn’t surface in the pretty place of prosperity. The same goes for faith, love, forgiveness and many other Christian attributes. The place our light shines the brightest is in the darkness. So when we seem to have no reason to be thankful, it is the most opportune time! Not in order to impress someone or keep a straight “Christian-face” but rather to trample on the enemy and keep pressing forward to victory! I thank God today for the blessings I have. I hope to use thankfulness more often as an offensive weapon against the enemy’s attacks. Sometimes we need to stand on the truth of God’s Word, sometimes we need to worship God at the top of our lungs in spite of how we feel, sometimes we need to fast and pray for answers, but sometimes we just need to count our blessings… You are such a blessing to me! Thanks so much for reading my posts! With lots of love and thankfulness Heleen

About Fear, People Pleasing, and more Surrender…

I didn’t want to share this really. Sometimes I start feeling uneasy about sharing so much of my life. Sometimes I just want to be a little phony again, wear a mask, pretend I’m always doing great. But then I think of every lady out there who has to deal with an eating disorder in the real world, and I drop the mask… A friend recently shared about going through a period of mourning. She said she felt a deep sadness for her body, and more specifically the fact that no one took care of it and made sure it stayed healthy. At the time I assured her that this type of sadness and mourning over “lost years” and “lost dreams” are normal when you’re breaking free from an eating disorder. Little did I know that some of that “mourning” was coming my way… It’s actually related to Thanksgiving so I thought today will be the perfect time to share this. I recently became aware of the very familiar feeling of “spiraling down”. I still experience this from time to time especially during the holidays. I can go a couple of years with an average weight that leaves me comfortable in my own skin, and more importantly, causes me to have PEACE IN MY SOUL AND SPIRIT. However,  just when I think “Man this is it, I have arrived” something goes wrong… I’m sure many of you can relate: When you initially experience some real breakthrough in the area of food addiction life is TOTALLY DIFFERENT! You are so excited and so hopeful. You’re eating well, you’re making time for God, you get some exercise and you FEEL SO MUCH BETTER. And then, somehow, someday out of the blue, it all changes and you start slipping and sliding and before you know it …

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Turn the Titanic around!

Some of you awesome ladies are doing a 21 day detox with me on our Members Forum. I am getting such good material out of it all, thanks ladies. One thing that keeps popping up is the question of “How do we turn this thing of Food Addiction or Eating Disorders around?” It is huge really, and like the titanic it turns slowly but surely! Right now you might feel like a baby who is trying to walk on wobbly legs. You might be dealing with your issues, but don’t see any weight loss. You might be eating better but can’t seem to get a grip on exercise. Or you might not quite get a handle on this surrender-your-life to God thing yet. Let me remind you of something: To find true victory in this area of your life, you need to MAKE UP YOUR MIND. Just like Daniel we find ourselves in a world full of temptation and we need to go into the battle every day with a heart that is set on doing what God wants.  Like Daniel we have to decide ahead of time: “I will not eat this stuff anymore. I will not defile my body. I will not sin against my God” However this is easier said than done. I’m sure some people wake up one morning with this kind of RESOLVE. Other humans like me have to walk it out a bit. I came to that place of resolve with the help of God before and stayed there for years at a time. However, other times the enemy stole it from me and I started bargaining again (it’s not so bad, I can eat what I want, I don’t need to spent time with God every day, I don’t have to exercise every week, I’m strong …

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Break the Power of a Binge!

How do you prevent a Binge from turning into a whole day (or month) of overeating? A friend asked this question on our forum, and I realized that it is a very common question that I might best answer here on my blog. Of course it would be best to not binge at all. However, preventing a binge is easier said than done. If you are on a journey of finding healing for the root issues behind your eating disorder, you might not quite be at the place where you recognize the early signs of a binge (starting in the thoughts and emotions) and thus find yourself still binging from time to time. You can easily undo all the progress you’ve made with one lousy binge! So how do you keep a binge from taking over your life? The answer lies in TURNING YOUR BACK ON PERFECTION FOR GOOD! In Week 10 of my 12 Week Online Program for women with eating disorders I speak about the huge link between Perfectionism and Eating Disorders. If you have strong perfectionist tendencies then you might have a very difficult time trying to break away from binging. The reason: You want to have a 100% perfect day or NOTHING – No middle ground. In order to find healing in this struggle and to BREAK THE POWER OF THE BINGE, our focus has to shift. We have to ask the Holy Spirit DAILY (maybe even hourly) to help us shift our focus from: WEIGHT LOSS     to     HEALTH AND 24 HOURS OF PERFECTION     to    A YEAR OF HEALTH So what am I trying to say? If you can change your focus (only with the help of God of course) to not see your life in 24 hour compartments of  “today-I-will-have-a-perfect-day” but rather view your progress over …

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I Challenge you to stay “sober” this Holiday Season!

The above title does not refer to alcohol consumption over the holidays (although it’s not a bad idea) but rather a challenge to stay “sober” in your quest for freedom from Food Addiction. If you have this problem I don’t have to convince you that binging on high fat and sugary food for a few months (the holiday season) can have serious repercussions. Weight gain, depression and strain on relationships are only a few of the side affects. In fact some people end up in the hospital with serious health issues while others isolate themselves from society and experience severe depression because of the shame that is somehow felt more acute this time of year. Please take the challenge that I’m extending to you. It’s two days after Halloween and you might have already dipped your hand in the candy bowl, but it’s not too late. The new year is not the best time to turn this ship around: Right now is the best time for you, please believe me! Please note that I am not talking about going on a diet! We all know by now that diets don’t work. No, find a program that can set you on the right track and change your life for good. I offer a 12 Week Online Program that can be of great help to you during the holidays, but there are also lots of other great programs out there. Hear me on this one: EXERCISE IS ONE OF YOUR BIGGEST ALLIES THIS TIME OF YEAR! Consider joining a gym or find a friend who wants to walk with you.  Ask God for wisdom in this area. You will find yourself come up with any excuse possible, but remember IT IS JUST EXCUSES. You need exercise now more than ever. Don’t let the enemy fool …

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