Why does it hurt so much?

Emotional pain is no stranger to someone with a food struggle. In fact, if you struggle with food, you probably find yourself stuck in the following painful cycle day after day: Uncomfortable feelings of dissatisfaction, anxiety, and depression A pressing desire to get rid of these feelings Use of food to numb the feelings (binge, purge or starvation) Feelings of guilt, shame, self-hate, and hopelessness after the food abuse Resolution to never binge, purge or starve again Lack of ability to honor these personal boundaries Right back to number one to keep on repeating the cycle day after day… If you are trapped in this cycle life can be downright EXCRUCIATING. If you’ve lost some weight through diets and programs before and you find yourself back in your old stretchy jeans and black T-shirt then the pain can almost be unbearably. The shame and the inability to change can make you isolate yourself from people and sink into a deep pit of depression. Why does this hurt so much? There are two reasons why people experience deep emotional pain in this struggle: 1. Most people experience pain because of the symptoms and consequences of an eating disorders such as; obesity, clothes that don’t fit, shame about their physical appearance, lack of intimacy in their marriage, illness due to the disorder, relationship problems and social isolation because of the eating disorder. 2. Some people experience pain because of the spiritual problem behind their eating disorder: They feel a deep pain about the distance it creates between them and God, and a sorrow for not being able to live a life of self control. They despised being mastered by food and they ache because they let gluttony and idolatry into their lives. They also have a deep sadness about grieving the Holy Spirit in the …

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Love is…

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.  For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.   But the greatest of these is LOVE. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-13 (Today’s New International Version) Does the above passage make you uncomfortable? Does it strike you as something you will never be able to do? I agree, it’s much like the passage in Proverbs 31, it sets a standard that is very hard to come by. You might come away from this passage with a feeling of hopelessness. Who can love like this? We want to love like this, but honestly, even on a good day we might only get as far as being patient and kind. Actually, the love described in this passage refers to AGAPE love. We don’t have it, but we need it. We can’t produce this kind of …

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