Comments for Heleen's Blog http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog Girl talk about God, marriage, kids, relationships, food struggles and more... Fri, 04 May 2012 01:19:28 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 Comment on How to Get UP when you Fall… by Heleen http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/52/how-to-get-up-when-you-fall/comment-page-1/#comment-840 Heleen Fri, 04 May 2012 01:19:28 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/?p=52#comment-840 Hi Mel About fasting: It is very dangerous for someone with an eating disorder. Many ladies are still in the "ALL" or " NOTHING" mindset that comes from years of dieting or binging and purging. It is very important to first get rid of that lie that "I will just stop eating and it will fix things" FIRST. God never meant for us to use fasting as a means of "control" but rather as a means of absolute "surrender". The problem is that if you've struggled with food for a long time it might have become just another way to "control" your weight or your life. This might not be true for you Mel, but if you struggle with perfectionism, it might be. I would recommend to still fast, but let your fast be from your addictive foods, and not from food in general. In my life this has been huge: I would truly have to hang on to God and surrender if I was ONLY breaking free from addictive foods, but I could stop eating (fasting) without too much trouble or needing God. So talk to God openly about which fast would be right and wise at this point. Surrender is key, so ask yourself what is the thing you TRULY have not been able to surrender (for instance, fasting from coffee was a very good start!) but try to stay away from any"extremes" These two older posts of mine might help you to decide which way to go from here: http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/805/one-sober-day-can-turn-things-around/ http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/346/breaking-the-power-of-a-binge Also watch this Beth Moore video where she also speaks about this topic: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=gYuYrFW60e4 Heleen Hi Mel

About fasting: It is very dangerous for someone with an eating disorder. Many ladies are still in the “ALL” or ” NOTHING” mindset that comes from years of dieting or binging and purging. It is very important to first get rid of that lie that “I will just stop eating and it will fix things” FIRST. God never meant for us to use fasting as a means of “control” but rather as a means of absolute “surrender”. The problem is that if you’ve struggled with food for a long time it might have become just another way to “control” your weight or your life.

This might not be true for you Mel, but if you struggle with perfectionism, it might be. I would recommend to still fast, but let your fast be from your addictive foods, and not from food in general. In my life this has been huge: I would truly have to hang on to God and surrender if I was ONLY breaking free from addictive foods, but I could stop eating (fasting) without too much trouble or needing God.

So talk to God openly about which fast would be right and wise at this point. Surrender is key, so ask yourself what is the thing you TRULY have not been able to surrender (for instance, fasting from coffee was a very good start!) but try to stay away from any”extremes”

These two older posts of mine might help you to decide which way to go from here:
http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/805/one-sober-day-can-turn-things-around/
http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/346/breaking-the-power-of-a-binge

Also watch this Beth Moore video where she also speaks about this topic: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=gYuYrFW60e4
Heleen

]]> Comment on 5am: The Hour of Horror! by Heleen http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/26/5am-the-hour-of-horror/comment-page-1/#comment-839 Heleen Thu, 03 May 2012 18:00:01 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/?p=26#comment-839 Thanks Rachel! I love it when ladies make me aware of mistakes on my blog and website. I strive to put together a resource of excellence, and there is always room for improvement. Let me know if you find other mistakes, and I will fix those as well. You can email me at heleen@surrenderedhearts.com Heleen Thanks Rachel! I love it when ladies make me aware of mistakes on my blog and website. I strive to put together a resource of excellence, and there is always room for improvement. Let me know if you find other mistakes, and I will fix those as well. You can email me at heleen@surrenderedhearts.com
Heleen

]]> Comment on My Website for Women Struggling with Food by Heleen http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/my-website-women-struggling-with-food/comment-page-1/#comment-838 Heleen Thu, 03 May 2012 17:57:44 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/?page_id=147#comment-838 Hi Mel Both those studies are excellent. You might want to start with Made to Crave and also make use of all the online resources Lisa has available around this study. Just Google the name of the book and you will find resources on Facebook, blogs, and the Proverbs 31 website as well. It will especially be helpful seeing that you're doing it on your own. After that you can go through the Beth Moore one, and maybe even see if you can find some ladies to join you. It is always so much more effective to have the accountability and support of other ladies. Heleen Hi Mel
Both those studies are excellent. You might want to start with Made to Crave and also make use of all the online resources Lisa has available around this study. Just Google the name of the book and you will find resources on Facebook, blogs, and the Proverbs 31 website as well. It will especially be helpful seeing that you’re doing it on your own. After that you can go through the Beth Moore one, and maybe even see if you can find some ladies to join you. It is always so much more effective to have the accountability and support of other ladies.
Heleen

]]> Comment on Stop the Nonsense: Chase your Dream! by Vanessa http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/54/stop-the-nonsense-chase-your-dream/comment-page-1/#comment-823 Vanessa Thu, 12 Apr 2012 10:11:02 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/?p=54#comment-823 Thanks for sharing Heleen - very encouraging. I really want only His dreams and desires for my life. He made us - He knows us better than we know ourselves. So, firstly I plan to seek Him to really receive clarity regarding what my true purpose is...and then I have no doubt that the rest will follow in due course. Thanks for sharing Heleen – very encouraging. I really want only His dreams and desires for my life. He made us – He knows us better than we know ourselves. So, firstly I plan to seek Him to really receive clarity regarding what my true purpose is…and then I have no doubt that the rest will follow in due course.

]]> Comment on 5am: The Hour of Horror! by Rachel http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/26/5am-the-hour-of-horror/comment-page-1/#comment-822 Rachel Mon, 09 Apr 2012 19:36:05 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/?p=26#comment-822 Just a note in the first sentence of your post you say 5pm not am. You don\'t need to post this comment, just thought you wouldn\'t mind knowing. Regards, Rachel Just a note in the first sentence of your post you say 5pm not am. You don\’t need to post this comment, just thought you wouldn\’t mind knowing.
Regards,
Rachel

]]> Comment on How to Get UP when you Fall… by Mel http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/52/how-to-get-up-when-you-fall/comment-page-1/#comment-820 Mel Sat, 07 Apr 2012 13:39:49 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/?p=52#comment-820 Heleen, thank you sooo much for this post. I've been binging for a month, and yes, you can imagine how big I got over this past 4 weeks. It's been crazy. I started binging after 10 days of eating only apples and drinking water. I went back to my nutritionist, and she gave me a healthy eating plan, which I love, but there's a problem: I cannot eat after 8pm and guess what? Those late night hours are the weakest for me. All I want is to eat, U N H E A L T H Y food, and it's really getting out of control. I read on one of your blogs that it is essential to be following a Bible study while you're on this journey, and I actually have 2 great books: "Made To Crave" by Lysa Terkeurst and "Breaking Free: Discover The Victory of Total Surrender" by Beth Moore ( I actually got this one after reading one of your blogs; you mentioned it). Which Bible Study should I do first? I have read "Made To Crave", not entirely, but I have read some chapters and it's powerful. On the other hand, I have never read Beth Moore's book, or any of her books. So yeah, I am here, stuck. I start every day with my head up high (sometimes), but after 8pm, I deliberately choose to eat anything I can find and I'm tired of this situation. And I have another question: Do you think a person that battles with food addiction, gluttony, binge eating, however you want to call it, fast? I really want to know. I get out of control when I fast. I don't know why. Not only do I feel super irritated, but my healthy eating gets out of control (after breaking the fast, of course). What would you suggest? Thank you. :) Heleen, thank you sooo much for this post. I’ve been binging for a month, and yes, you can imagine how big I got over this past 4 weeks. It’s been crazy. I started binging after 10 days of eating only apples and drinking water. I went back to my nutritionist, and she gave me a healthy eating plan, which I love, but there’s a problem: I cannot eat after 8pm and guess what? Those late night hours are the weakest for me. All I want is to eat, U N H E A L T H Y food, and it’s really getting out of control. I read on one of your blogs that it is essential to be following a Bible study while you’re on this journey, and I actually have 2 great books: “Made To Crave” by Lysa Terkeurst and “Breaking Free: Discover The Victory of Total Surrender” by Beth Moore ( I actually got this one after reading one of your blogs; you mentioned it). Which Bible Study should I do first? I have read “Made To Crave”, not entirely, but I have read some chapters and it’s powerful. On the other hand, I have never read Beth Moore’s book, or any of her books. So yeah, I am here, stuck. I start every day with my head up high (sometimes), but after 8pm, I deliberately choose to eat anything I can find and I’m tired of this situation. And I have another question: Do you think a person that battles with food addiction, gluttony, binge eating, however you want to call it, fast? I really want to know. I get out of control when I fast. I don’t know why. Not only do I feel super irritated, but my healthy eating gets out of control (after breaking the fast, of course). What would you suggest? Thank you. :)

]]> Comment on My Website for Women Struggling with Food by Mel http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/my-website-women-struggling-with-food/comment-page-1/#comment-814 Mel Mon, 02 Apr 2012 00:36:17 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/?page_id=147#comment-814 Hello Heleen! I am planning to do a Bible study by myself, and I really don't know if I should use "Breaking Free, Discover the Victory of Total Surrender" by Beth Moore or "Made To Crave" by Lysa TerKeurst. I have a very serious binge eating disorder that is eating me alive. I need God's truth. What would you suggest? Hello Heleen! I am planning to do a Bible study by myself, and I really don’t know if I should use “Breaking Free, Discover the Victory of Total Surrender” by Beth Moore or “Made To Crave” by Lysa TerKeurst. I have a very serious binge eating disorder that is eating me alive. I need God’s truth. What would you suggest?

]]> Comment on How do you get rid of CARB CRAVINGS? by racquel bolton http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/230/how-do-you-get-rid-of-carb-cravings/comment-page-1/#comment-813 racquel bolton Thu, 29 Mar 2012 01:01:39 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/?p=230#comment-813 thank you for your blog its good to see other blievers of God and other women going through this. i know im not alone. carbs are like crack and im trying to chage my life. thank you for your blog its good to see other blievers of God and other women going through this. i know im not alone. carbs are like crack and im trying to chage my life.

]]> Comment on 365 DAYS to Transform your LIFE! by Media http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/51/365-days-can-transform-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-810 Media Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:03:29 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/?p=51#comment-810 May God bless you.You made me realise the reason why I have been failing to loose weight God\\\'s way.May God grant you more and more garce to keep on transforming lives. God bless Sister!!!!! May God bless you.You made me realise the reason why I have been failing to loose weight God\\\’s way.May God grant you more and more garce to keep on transforming lives.

God bless Sister!!!!!

]]> Comment on How do you get rid of CARB CRAVINGS? by Rebecca http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/230/how-do-you-get-rid-of-carb-cravings/comment-page-1/#comment-782 Rebecca Thu, 23 Feb 2012 17:56:11 +0000 http://www.blogeatingdisorder.com/blog/?p=230#comment-782 I am so touched and impressed by you glorifying God in this situation. God bless you for doing this. Yes I am going to give my desire of Carbs to the Lord and ask Him to help me. God Bless you I am so touched and impressed by you glorifying God in this situation. God bless you for doing this. Yes I am going to give my desire of Carbs to the Lord and ask Him to help me. God Bless you

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